You’ve Got Your Whole Life Ahead Of You So Don’t Dwell On The Past
April 24th, 2007Look to the Future
Life is constantly blossoming however one easy way to not live your life to the max is to get dwelled down in events that have happened in the past. Let's face it we all have a past and there's things in our past that don't bring back the fondest of memories. In order to move on and to recover from these misfortunes or bad memories it's so important to look to the future and don't dwell on the past.
It's really easy to say something like this but believe me it's invaluable advice. From personal experience I know that time is a great healer - BUT whatever you do don't get frozen in time - recognize future opportunities and get on the road to fulfill them.
We all react differently to our mishaps in life - I found this great article which identifies how different people react. The author explains how it's not easy but it's the most sane way to live:
Focus on the opportunities of the future, not the tragedies of the past
Life isn't always easy. I'm sure I don't have to convince you of that. We all face tragedies and make mistakes. That's just part of existing on this planet.But at the same time, we're all provided with opportunities and good times. It's a mix of the bitter and the sweet.
Moving On
Part of being successful and happy in life, I believe, is to be able to move on from the tragedies of the past. And we all have them. Sure some of us get it worse than others, but you have to play with the cards life deals you.
If you've been dumped by your lover, been a victim of crime, failed in business, or lost a friend, then you're just one of the multitude. We all face such challenges and sometimes worse. It's the people who can pick themselves up, after an understandable period of mourning, and refocus themselves back on the future who are likely to find happiness. We are human, and need time to recover from setbacks, but it's a mistake to let them consume you.
Attitude
I've travelled extensively and met all sorts of people in my time. The difference between those who are happy and those who aren't is often not to do with circumstances, but with attitude. The ones who can shrug off life's difficulties and work towards something better in the future are the ones who are smiling. They feel a quiet confidence, that they can still find a little goodness and light.
Others I meet can let one negative event in their lives destroy any chance of happiness. They turn the bad things that happened to them over and over in their minds until the world appears dark and brutal. Perhaps they've been through a messy divorce or lost their lucrative career. Perhaps they've had a health problem, or suffered as a victim of crime. Whatever it is, they just don't seem to be able to move on. Their entire life is viewed through the lens of the problems from the past.
You can see this also at play in certain peoples. Those is some countries can't escape from ancient crimes they feel were perpetrated against them. They live their entire lives attempting to correct what should long have been forgotten. Meanwhile, those in other countries seem to do little else but focus on the opportunities of the future.
The Future
I'm sure you can find examples of each without having to think too hard. Focus on the opportunities of the future, not the tragedies of the past when living your own life. It's not always easy, but it's the most sane way to live. And, of course, it's your best hope of happiness.