Core Identity: Are you who YOU want to be?
March 17th, 2008The "science" behind this states that everybody has 2 versions of themselves:
1. the identity they really walk around with = the shell
2. the person they really want to be = the core identity
The core identity is the true identity, held captive by lack of knowledge, and circumstance.
If you are working as a lawyer in a law firm, working 70hr weeks and not very satisfied, your shell dictates that you are a stressed out lawyer.
But, your core identity could be that of an artist. Or a Casanova. Or a rock star.
That’s your core identity. That’s who YOU want to be.
Most communication between people is surface to surface, shell to shell. That means, you hear someone’s words, and based on those words, you comply…or not.
Our deepest core desires are never things such as ‘make money’, ‘get out of the house’, etc… If this is what you think it is, your brain is lying to you. It’s never something like that. These are the just surface outcomes. The truth is, the whole point of ourselves is to create and to perpetuate experiences. Goals are meaningless.
If you think about what you want in life, you will probably find that it’s not about money or wealth. It’s experiences, as well as to perpetuate, and to create.
You need to know who you are, and who you want to be. But, how do you know?
THE QUESTION:
If there were no limitations or consequences, what would your perfect, average day look like?
Limitations means you don’t have to worry about money, health, geography nor limiting people.
Consequences means it has to be something safe, not anything that will get you in trouble or arrested. Be wise.
Average means you could do it everyday and not get killed (this means your perfect day would not include climbing Mount Everest, for example.)
Ask yourself:
- Where would you live?
- What would your house look like?
- What time would you wake up?
- What would you do in the morning?
- What would you do in the first hour of your day?
- Who would you eat with?
- What would you eat?
- What would your friends be like?
- What would you do for personal fulfillment?
- What purpose would you strive for?
- What would your business be?
- What would you actually do for work?
- What are your clients like?
- What are your relationships like?
- What would you do for family time?
- What would you have for dinner?
- What would you talk about over dinner?
- What would you do at night?
- Who would you do it with?
- Where would you be?
- Where would you do it?
- What would your thoughts be as you go to sleep?
Your perfect day will help you identify who you really are, and what your core identity is.
Law of Attraction
When you have a picture on your mind of your core identity and your new life, you’ll find that things start moving you towards that: you start attracting the right circumstances, the right people and so on… This is because you are more focused on your goals as you work towards them…
What we are really aiming for is this:
- experiences (because goals are meaningless);
- a new identity, and
- the sum of all this is Life.
March 18th, 2008 at 3:04 am
This is a great post! You have presented questions that everyone needs to stop and think about for a moment.
Anna
http://law-of-attraction-thoughts.blogspot.com/
March 19th, 2008 at 3:16 pm
I totally agree with Anna! We know a few of these questions as they pop up all the time in many self-help books. But I have not seen them so detailed. This will help me and everybody who is trying to figure out who they are.
Thank you!
March 19th, 2008 at 8:00 pm
A useful article except I am unsure how to think about the statement: “Goals are meaningless.” Are not the experiences you suggest we focus on striving for just goals? You suggest the goal of “getting out of the house” is meaningless, but how is that different from asking: “What would you do at night?” You suggest we ask what purpose we are striving for. If we are striving for purposes, are these not goals? Your statement that goals are meaningless is itrself meaningless; it seems to me merely semantic and detracts from your message. Perhaps what you mean to say is that goals that focus on the acquisition of things (as opposed to experiences) are meaningless?
Gord Gates
March 20th, 2008 at 8:29 am
Hope that this post will help me to identify who am I & what is my life purpose……….
March 20th, 2008 at 9:09 am
Hi. As I have experienced and grown in my life I have become conscious of this principle. However, it’s not easy to make changes when they will have a big impact on other people – for instance the life I visualise is one that doesn’t involve being with my present partner of over 20 years. Because I know that person is going to be deeply hurt I’m struggling to summon the courage to deal with it.
March 20th, 2008 at 3:48 pm
Yes, I totally agree with the law of attraction, when I have a picture on my mind of my core identity and my life, eg.my career, I find that things really start moving towards that. Not only I start attracting the right people, positive opportunities related to my goals start presenting to me. This is because I have been focusing on these goals and I have been practising the power of visualisation. It is happening to me now.
March 20th, 2008 at 4:38 pm
I am retired and I am who I want to be!
You know, it can happen! It didn’t happen overnight or just because of Silva…but it can
happen if you just diligently keep seeking.
March 20th, 2008 at 6:38 pm
Great post. With reference to ‘goals are meaningless – we should focus on experiences’: A helpful way to grasp this distinction is to ask: how will achieving the goal make me feel? It’s the feeling that you really long for and need to focus on. I ask myself this question: how do I believe I would feel if I had or achieved what I believe I want?
Then – is it possible to have this feeling NOW? It’s the feeling that energises the visualisation.
March 20th, 2008 at 6:54 pm
After thinking about my core Identity I realized that what I would like to say and do is what I am doing now..LOL a bit of $$ might help but Its not needed to make me happy with myself…Taking that step to get my divorce did that..best thing I ever did for myself…now instead of thinking how upset my life was it is now becoming brighter each and everyday ..THANKS
March 20th, 2008 at 9:57 pm
I answered those questions and realized that I petty much am who I want to be and more – nice to have the affirmation!
March 21st, 2008 at 1:21 am
We all choose a path for ourselves which we think will be abundant in every sense to sustain us throughout our lives. The first thing we are conditioned to think about is money, and all the prerequisites for being able to acquire it. eg. primary education, tertiary education which is seen to bring in a moderate amount of finance, university; which sees us on our way to earning greater sums due to a higher education. We need money to live. Some of that preconditioning is good for us and an awful lot is bad. If we can find our true self in all this preconditioning we are indeed free to do whatever we want in life. We have been empowered to take control of our lives and live life more abundantly. Unfortunately there are many who slip through the net and are just wandering around in the desert (so to speak)and some of us do this for years before we find our true selves and the meaning of why we are here. Once we have admitted to ourselves there is a Higher Self we can then start to question our existence. The big question: “Why am I here”. Whatever path we choose to walk we should always be aware that each step in life is a learning curve and its how we present with these lessons that takes us to our Core Identity, True Self or Higher Self. Its really a wonderful life once we have been made aware of all the restrictions which have beset us in our upbringing. The bad energies passed on to us by our family before we could make our own decisions as to whether they were wrong or right for us. The hurt which family and friends beset us with from early infancy to adulthood, without them realising the hurt they have caused. Once we have acknowledged these problems which cause blocks to our abundance then we shall be able to move forward.
A way forward is to use affirmations while tuning into, ie tapping the energy meridians of the body. This gives one the emotional freedom which is needed to be released to preconditioning thoughts about wealth, health and happiness. Our subconscious is immediately awakened and we are attracted to the right people, those who will help us to move forward.
A marvelous way of accessing immediate problems which arise in our thoughts and turning them around to positive action is to focus on the problem one has at the present time and turn it into a positive affirmation in question form. eg.
The negative thought: “I cant draw or paint very well at all”.
The positive affirmation in question form: Why am I so successful in my journey in drawing and painting?
Q. “Why dont I ever have enough money”.
A. “Why am I so successful in acquiring abundant finance? ”
Once we have captured the negative thought, emotion etc we are feeling at the time and turned it around we will be truly astonished of our progress. We have attained our Core Identity, True Self of Higher Self. This is where we should be at. The state we were in before we were born. Before preconditioning started in our little lives we were All Powerful.. This is what creates true abundance in learning, wealth, health and true happiness.
I am at the present time working on my blocks to acquire abundance in all things and more importantly to finding my Core Identity in every meaning of the word.
March 21st, 2008 at 3:12 am
This post is terrific!Thanks a lot for helping me identify,who I really am, and what my core identity is.
March 21st, 2008 at 4:21 am
I had a glance at the questions for revealing core self. I am interested in it. Questions look simple but requires deep thought. I liked them and i will definitely answer all those. I am desperate to improve myself. Thanks a lot
March 22nd, 2008 at 3:13 am
Thank you so much for these interesting Core Questions. It’s giving me something to really ponder on as I’ve never thought that deeply about it. Maybe the part, “goals are meaningless”, is not specific enough for some people but I know what is meant. Thank you again!
March 22nd, 2008 at 6:36 pm
It is what we all should thought in the first place. And I agree with it. One should know thyself to be thyself. Thoughts are Things, right? Most of time, we only look and think what we can see not what we can’t see. It is hard, as in the Science of getting Rich had says, to think what we can’t see is hard, it requires a great deal of mental powers. Even I never knows what I’m truly wanted to be, though there’s plenty I simply think I wanna be, but it’s hard. Seems like its resist to make it be. O’ God, help me and thank you for all the goodness in everything. Bless everyone in here.
March 23rd, 2008 at 7:30 pm
The idea of core identity is something we all know, but rarely put in action.
Most communication between people is surface to surface, shell to shell. That means, you hear someone’s words, and based on those words, you comply…or not.
My sub-conscious speaks to your subconscious. It is a form of communication in which the subconscious is always really in control. You can’t control it. You can only guide it.
We know for a fact, for example, that your subconscious takes in a million more small pieces of information than your conscious mind does.
Eg, If you were hypnotized, a hypnotist could ask you: in 1981, on March 13, at 5am in the morning, what were you dreaming about?
And, you’d be able to respond.
It’s interesting that with hypnosis, some people can even remember before they were born, when they were in the womb. It’s spooky stuff, and it works. It just shows how powerful the subconscious mind is.
So, the whole concept here is that we all have an inner core, and an outer shell.
But, the core is not the subconscious. The core is who you, deep down, desire to be. The aim is to talk to other people from your core to their core, to the person they, deep down, really desire to be. It helps us to treat each other with a newfound respect, and when other people see us not for what we are but what we are striving towards, we are greatly encouraged and we get to where we want to be, faster.
When we say “goals are irrelevant”, this is mostly in the context of the perfect day, and in looking at ourselves as who we really are. We are not made for lives of mediocrity. Sadly, many of us are brought up to think that if we get the perfect wife/husband, we will be happy. Or when we finally get that promotion, we will be happier. Or when we have the perfect body or the perfect house or more money… These things, these ‘goals’ are meaningless, because once we get there, we realize there’s still that vacant hole that needs to be filled. Our brains are trying to convince us that these matter, because that is the perception that society instills in us. Our parents think the same, our friends think the same, we all strive towards things that give fleeting satisfaction.
In the pursuit of happiness, these things don’t matter. This way, it becomes an internal struggle that limits your ability to get things done. Once you have crafted your perfect day, it gives you focus and direction.
What we are really looking for is a new life. With proper guidance, your subconscious can create a new core identity, and this core identity is what will speak to other people on a core level.
When you sit down and craft your perfect day, you begin to live a new life, a life transformed. You find it easier to interact with others. You begin to work towards what will actually make you happy…you begin to pursue happiness in a real and meaningful way. Hope that helps!
March 26th, 2008 at 3:42 am
I’ve been doing this and everything else imaginable for YEARS, even writing it down.I have not had any success at all. I’m pretty sure this stuff doesn’t work, don’t know why I keep trying.
March 27th, 2008 at 4:42 pm
I feel I am close to my true self – just not enough – I still feel limited in choices – fiancial mostly and the energy needed to enhance my life. ” want to – can’t quiet push myself “
April 6th, 2008 at 10:56 pm
note for nowhere fast.
I understand that you are not having any success and I really can empathise with that. But I bet that there is something holding you back… and I would put money on the
” Our greatest fear is not that we are inadequate, but that we are powerful beyond measure. it is not our darkness, that frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, handsome, talented, and fabulous? Actually , who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We were born to make manifest the glory of God within us. It is not just in some; it is in everyone. And, as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
- Marianne Wiliamson
This is all that stands in your way. Trust me, I’ve been there… and have proven that it is true.