How to Break a Bad Habit – a Step by Step Guide
Thursday, November 15th, 2007Use this technique to begin ditching your bad habits.
…and start building GOOD ones (yes, it’s possible).
Do you smoke, but wish you didn’t? Does it seem impossible, no matter how hard you try, to keep your desk or office lean and clean? Or do you wish you read for 30 minutes a day to learn new gardening techniques?
Habits, good or bad, are a major part of our life. Think about it, how many actions or activities do you repeat day in and day out? If you can’t think of any, observe yourself today and note which tasks you do daily without a second thought.
The beauty and the curse of habits is they’re so thoughtless. But wait! There is usually something that inspires each habit occurring; a meal inspires a cigarette, getting home from work inspires 2 hours in front of the TV, or a meeting means you need a Coke.
Introduce yourself to The Trigger. The Trigger is the specific event, feeling, or activity – the meal, arrival home, or meeting – that triggers a desire in you – the cigarette, TV, or coke. The first key to breaking a bad habit is understanding what triggers it. Once you know that, you may be able to remove your bad habit by removing the trigger. Only smoke cigarettes when you’ve had a few too many beers? Limit your intoxication by only bringing cash when you socialize and limiting the quantity you bring. No money = no more beers. But don’t forget the taxi!
Some triggers can’t be removed from daily life. Fact of life. And these bad habits generally bring some sort of pleasure, albeit usually a short-term pleasure. So, your next step is figuring out how you’re going to fill the void left by this habit-removal. Now we’re starting to understand…
… The Substitute. The Substitute is what replaces your habit in bringing you pleasure. Want to quit taking that Coke to the meeting? Take a smoothie or fruit juice instead. Always need a coffee in the morning? Try replacing it with tea. Although you must be extremely careful with this, you could try a multi-step substitute replacement using progressively better (or less bad) substitutes. This method highlights the fact that, regardless of the 1-step or multi-step, you…
… need A Game Plan. Your Game Plan is your schedule for habit-removal. Set up checkpoints, 30, 90, and 365 day checkpoints seem good (you didn’t think you could get by with no record keeping, did you?). Use these check-points to assess how successful you’ve been. If at Day 30 you’re kicking that poor habit, feel good! Give yourself a reward. If you haven’t improved much, assess why it is. Did you properly identify The Trigger? Or maybe you don’t have…
… High Stakes. Having High Stakes means you get a meaningful reward or a punishment for success or failure. For example, let’s say your goal is to work out 4 times per week (here’s how to do it). Before starting, give a trustworthy friend $50 to hold onto. If you succeed to you get to use that for a professional massage. If not, they get to keep it (be clear about this and make sure they agree to it). The Stakes are high and in this case could get expensive, so you…
… might as well Maintain Focus. Keep it to one new habit per 30 days. Here’s why. One per month means that in one year, you could stop (start) these bad (good) habits:
- Smoking
- Drinking 4 Diet Cokes per day
- Maintain a lean and clean inbox
- Work out 4 times per week
- Read 30 minutes per day
- Stop watching TV completely
- Stop picking your nails
- Keep the litter box clean for your feline friend by cleaning it daily
- Meditate daily
- Eat breakfast every day
- Keep your kitchen clean by scrubbing it down each month
- Stop eating those brownies after every dinner
Not a bad list, eh? I’d call that a pretty good year.

