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You always own certain things in life that are extremely valuable to you. Certain people in whom you had unconditional faith betrayed you in a manner one could never even think of. Your most precious things were taken away from you and hence forth life could never be the same. Every day one lives with the pain of flashbacks, bitter thorns; feelings of how could things end up on a more different note.

Being humans we all suffer pain during the life course. Pain can be cause by anything, be it rape, murder, abuse, or may be simple betrayal. No one becomes unique if that person suffers from pain. Even though sometimes the pain of loss is so pinching that it becomes difficult to put it into words. As a result all we get is a feeling of bitterness, than walls all around us and enables us to make connections with the part of our mind, body and soul that we have lost. It is irrational yet we expect the person who wounded us to suffer.

The only way to leach oneself out of that prison is through forgiving that respective person. In a case study, while I was going through it. I read as to how a girl forgave two guys who had hurt her extremely and in spite of forgiving them strait at that very point of time she still kept struggling for a couple of years ahead to trust someone else she met.

Then I realized that the key to forgiveness is not when someone hurts you and you just out rightly forgive the person. That would never heal your wound completely. This is because every time the old memories and flashbacks will strike you, it would deepen your wound all over again. Thus the only way to forgive someone forever and save yourself from the ocean of sorrows is through persistent forgiveness. Every time that person or even is reminded to you, you ought to forgive that person all over again. Keep forgiving till you are not overcome with that incident and those happenings in your life.

The simplest way is to follow the process of forgiveness. Firstly one needs to know what hurt him, who were the people involved and wrong did they brought to that person. Then you must try to understand the reason behind their action and their motive behind doing so. Further on you realize as to what unforgiveness has done or what it might do if it still continues the same way. Then one must choose to forgive. This can be done in any way may be by writing a journal or say a letter.

Next you sit down with the person and tell him as to what action or deed of his hurt you. For complete forgiveness one needs to be totally open. Realize how the person reacts to your response to his mistake and if he still has issues than that’s certainly not your problem. Next, to pray good for that person and ask god to bless that person always. Lastly you meditate the words of god and preach their lessons of forgiveness all the time. This helps you not only to completely the forgiveness process but also stop from the old memories coming back to your mind.

Forgiving yourself is a challenge. You can loath yourself all you want but you eventually reach a point where your hatred towards yourself becomes exhausting. Until you forgive yourself, your past will keep on haunting you and nobody likes that. You’re actually doing yourself a favor by forgiving yourself.

As difficult as it is, forgiving yourself is a necessary step towards a better life. The following rituals would help you in the process:

1. Reflecting upon the past: You cannot do anything to change the past but you can change your present. Don’t let the past overshadow your present and future. Ponder over what you did wrong then, you can’t undo it but you can surely prevent yourself from committing the same mistake again. Imagine how things would have gone if you hadn’t made that mistake, how different things would have been, how different your life and you would have been. Think of how you used to be and try becoming a better self, not the sulky self.
2. Meditation: Meditation is one of the best ways to heal. You are broken and you need mend yourself. Meditate each day for at least a month for fifteen minutes. Do it in a disturbance free surrounding. Concentrate on your breathing, take deep breaths and let your realization dawn upon you. Don’t shut yourself against the negative feelings; instead open yourself up to them. Allow these emotions to sink into you and think of how you can forgive yourself. What can you do to make for the past? At first the confrontation with your negative feelings could be disturbing but after sometime, you’ll feel that your mind has actually calmed down. You would find solace in meditating after sometime.
3. Chanting: Chanting is an effective way of changing the pattern of your thoughts. They are effective because you keep on saying the same thing over and over again and after sometime you actually start believing in it. Say the chant out loud to yourself everyday for at least ten times. It could be anything like “I allow myself to heal” or “I forgive myself for the mistake I committed in the past” or “I will let go of the past”. This will help you changing the stream of your thoughts.
4. Keeping a journal: Write down your feelings in a diary. What all you went through today, the feelings that you experienced and the incidents that induced those feelings. This way you’ll come to know what induces negative feelings in you and what makes you happy. Write down the whole process of forgiving yourself, things that you cannot share with anyone. You’ll feel much better after writing your diary.
5. Compensation: Compensate for your past actions. Make a conscious sacrifice of your time and money and put in your effort to do something good.

Forgiving yourself is a journey who’s destination is a better you. These rituals will help make your journey easier and give you a positive direction.

As per the dictionary, a crown is the top of a head, society, hill etc or a governing body. Similarly, the top or the ruling chakra of the body is called the crown chakra. Placed at serial number seven, it connects us to a higher-self, a universal power or God, as we call it. It acts as a shielding body which looks after all the other chakras under it. The other chakras can only function properly when the crown chakra is working properly. In other words, it is the lever which sets other chakras in motion. This chakra is often pictured as a thousand petals lotus flower. It provides us with a spiritual gateway for our higher self. It also controls our head and nervous system. In Sanskrit language, it is accredited as “Sahasrara” and is associated with the color violet.

So why this chakra does possesses such importance? The answer is hidden in the benefits it provides us with. When the crown chakra is in harmony, it forms a passageway for us to connect to a higher self, a higher power or god. In modern language, its perfect health keeps our ''head straight''. It stimulates our right to aspire and acquire more. A harmonious crown chakra allows for an extended awareness on an emotional level and shows that one has attained peace with God, oneself and the universe, as a whole. This allows inner peace and happiness.

However, if the crown chakra falls out of harmony, it is bound to surround us with thorns of problems. The routine or working of the other chakras is thrown out of balance. For instance, if Sun stops rotating, then all the planets, that are dependent on it, will go haywire and collide into each other causing destruction. Similarly, the crown chakra acts as the Sun of the body, which’s ill-working can cause major destruction in the body. A feeling of abandonment fills us a person since he/she start thinking that their spiritual guide has stopped communicating with them. There is a lack of confidence and desire to achieve. The grave results of an unbalanced crown chakra can be depression, mental illness, epilepsy, Parkinson’s and bone or genetic disorders.

Now the question arises, how to save oneself from falling prey to the ill-health of the chakra. Various methods have been provided by spiritual experts to help one curb the imbalance of crown chakra. Meditation, yoga asanas and prayer target the magnetic field of the chakra and stimulate its movements.

Other than that, using violet colored objects like violet colored clothes, bangles, bags or consuming edibles of such color also helps in maintaining its harmony.

Since the governing body affects the working and functioning of the body, its health is of prime concern. Therefore, one should be alert about the working of the crown chakra and if encountered with any problem, must get it diagnosed.

You must have heard many people talk and discuss about the 7 chakras, but ever wondered what is so important about them? There are numerous books about them, television programs, CDs; self help programs, but why? Some of us know only know that they provide us energy and that's it. Just knowing the outline of them is not enough. We need to dig deeper so that we exactly know which part is in deficiency of energy and work on it.

By learning about the different benefits that each of the 7 chakras provides us, we help our selves in a great way. There are varieties of benefits which get infused in us due to the proper functioning of the chakras. These are:

Root chakra: Located at the base of the spine it keeps a person grounded. It fills up a person with a sense of security and being at home. A healthy root chakra enables a person to provide himself with the basic necessities of life with practical, logical and rational thinking.

Sacral chakra: The second of the 7 chakras is the sacral chakra. This chakra rules our sexual abilities and creativity. A balances sacral chakra offers us self respect, self esteem, confidence in one’s actions and a sense of freedom.

Solar plexus chakra: The third chakra is located at the just above the navel. This chakra is associated at providing with a sense of power, authority and ego. Due to this chakra, we are able to stand and fight for ourselves.

Heart chakra: The heart chakra is located at the centre of the chest. Our sense of love and compassion are stimulated by this chakra. In addition to that, limitless understanding, forgiveness and empathy are also infused in us.

Throat chakra: This chakra is situated at the centre of the throat. This chakra is our communicative gateway. It is only due to this chakra that we are able to voice our opinions, views and ideas. It allows us to express our feelings which help us in conveying our thoughts in a proper and understandable manner.

Third eye chakra: The third eye chakra posses the tasks as per its name. It provides us with a great sense of intuition and imagination. Following that, our creative projects improve manifold and one could easily witness a steep rise in his/her performance at work.

Crown chakra: The crown chakra is located at the top of the head. When our crown chakra is healthy, it connects us with the energies of the spiritual guide. We feel secured, loved and important. It also loads us with immense amount of confidence which helps us in conquering all the difficulties with an ease.

There is a lot more that the 7 chakras provide us than just transferring energies. Their benefits to us are enormous and it swells their importance for us.

Negative thinking can destroy your happiness, productivity, and whatever else you are being negative about. While you may try and couch it as being a realist, things are rarely as bad as we make them out to be. So fight negative thinking to be happier, more productive, and successful.

Positive Affirmations

Did you know that how we think we feel affects how we actually feel? It’s an interesting quirk of our biology that lets us change our mood fairly easily. Just by thinking of things in a positive, upbeat way, you can make yourself positive and upbeat.

An easy way to do this is through positive affirmations. Have a list of good thoughts that, if you think they are true, would make your life great. Come up with things like.

1. I am a great person
2. I am successful
3. People love me
4. My boss values my work
5. I am upwardly mobile
6. My life is better now than it was a year ago, and will be even better next year
7. I am happy

When you say these to yourself, try and actually mean them. If you can, you will probably start to feel better.

Smile!

This is related to the first tip. If you do something so simple as try and act happy, you will feel happy. Psychologists have noted this for a long time.

The key to this phenomena is that, chemically, most of our states look the same. Happiness, anger and sadness all have quite similar levels of adrenaline and other chemicals, though sadness usually has slightly less. To figure out whether these chemicals mean we are happy, sad or angry, our minds look to our environment. In one experiment, psychologists gave 2 groups of people shots of adrenaline. In both there was a planted research assistant, but the two acted very differently. In one room, the assistant acted happy, and the other people in the room were happy. In the other, the assistant acted angry, and the others were angry. The people relied on context to determine whether the adrenaline meant they were happy or angry. This is why crowds can go from happy and peaceful to an angry mob in moments. By acting happy, you trick your brain into thinking that you are supposed to be happy, so you are happy.

Interesting, huh?

Avoid Negatives

Sometimes you cannot avoid words like cannot, but you can try and limit their usage. Think of things in a positive light by stripping can’t and cannot from your vocabulary.

Get active

Oftentimes, negative thinking comes from a dearth of energy. Slothfulness leaves your body without adrenaline, serotonin and other drugs that make you feel strong emotions. Get up and move. Climb the stairs rather than take the elevator, go out and ride a bike, run in the morning. Get up from your desk and take a short stroll whenever you have a chance, just to get your blood moving. Just move, and you won’t be able but to think positive thoughts.

It is very strange when people say that they don’t have time to be happy and at the same time they get the time to be sad. It is shocking but is also true. Their pitiful affiance has nothing to do with adequate or inadequate time. It is all related to complaining as complaining is the reversal of happiness.

So try to defend yourself from the negativities as it is persistent like the common cold but is far more disturbing and damaging. The people who had got infected with the negative thoughts are internally damaged or destroyed. The people who have the negative thoughts become stimulating, sarcastic and unconcerned.

So the question arises that how can we defend ourselves against this disease. It is very simple as when we know the side effects of a disease we automatically restrain ourselves from getting involved in it. So here are few examples which will help us refrain from the negative thoughts.

1. The worst thing is complaining as complaining is like digging a hole for you. As the more we will complain the bigger will be the hole and more hard will be for us to come out of it. So try to avoid complaining and instead of complaining say something good.

2. A negative thought have a great impact on your life. As we can’t blame anyone for the problems of our lives and for the solutions. We have to solve the problems on our own and if you say that positive thinking does not work for you than for your information positive thinking does not work you have to work.

3. Negative thought brings failures for us. And failure causes the physical and mental stress. So a bad attitude not only brings failures to your life but is also accompanied by the weak immune system and a number of diseases.

4. The people with the negative thinking close all the doors of happiness and success that are approaching towards them and they are left with failures and sorrows.

5. The people who have negative thinking want that everyone and everything around them should act in the way in which they want which is not possible. So when their wishes are not fulfilled they become unhappy.

6. When we accuse ourselves and others we are just preparing ourselves for the failures and are creating self fulfilling prophecies.

7. If we have a negative thinking than the world around us will also be negative and we have to live in it at any cost. As if we awe the negative thinking we will complain about everything and in response we will have to face the rude attitude of the people.

8. The greatest effect of the negativities is that it sets up the mind of the victim. And the people start to believe that they can’t do anything and they had to rely on others for everything.

9. The other effect of negativities is that the effected people want each and everything but without doing and struggle which is against the fundamental laws of life. So they are not able to achieve anything.

10. The people with the negative thought are attracted by only those people who also have the negative thoughts and together they make a group of losers.

11. The stress which a person had to face with a negative attitude demolishes all the energy, motivation and focus of a person and than it is quite hard to get the success.

12. The people who neglect to change their negative attitude undergo abandon, depression and misery.

13. Apart from all this the people with the negative thought not only harm themselves but also harm the world with their thoughts.

The life of a person is like a boat with a motor and he is travelling in a sea but is not aware of the fact that he has a motor in the boat. Unless you will use the motor you are the captive of the sea and if you use the motor you can change the course of the sea. So the choice is all your s that how you want to lead your life.

There are the famous world renowned psychics we all know of. Elizabeth Baron is one of the world’s most celebrated psychics and mediums. Abby Haydon has helped many groups of people throughout the world develop their own psychic abilities as well as perform accurate readings. Gordon Smith is a famous psychic who speaks to the dead. So you want to do the same? Perhaps you don’t care so much about speaking to the dead but just want the gift of reading auras, chakras or tarot cards for your friends and family. Maybe you want to heighten your intuitive sense so that you yourself can become a medium. It’s possible for each and every one of us to achieve that, and the power lies completely within.

First, it’s important to be clear on what psychic ability is. If you are a beginner to the psychic world, you may be unaware that psychics are not simply gypsy looking folks who sit on a cloth covered table with a crystal ball and predict the future. Psychics are not “magical or mystical” superheros. They are normal and healthy individuals who have perfected their gift, whether there were born with a heightened sense or have simply worked hard to perfect their gift. Sylvia Brown is a famous psychic who has become famous for her ability to communicate with the dead, make accurate predictions on the world’s future and is one of the most gifted contemporary psychics of this time. She and many other psychics have used their gift to help solve murders, catch runaways and contribute their good to thousands of people all over the world.

If you wanted to increase your intuitive ability(which is really just a skill of heightened senses in an individual) you would have to devote yourself to total trust and confidence. In the same way, this is a crucial step for developing a finely tuned psychic gift as well. Since we all have the ability to be clairvoyant, it is just our current state of mind that is preventing us from reaching the level of accuracy and focus we need to be psychic. Psychic ability requires depending on yourself – and yourself first and foremost – and at the same time learning to weed out those other voices in your head. Confused? If you think about all of your obligations in your daily life such as work, running errands, your relationships with a spouse, partner and children, you have a lot going on. Most likely, you experience constant noise such as self-judgments or the judgments of others; negative emotions during times of challenge and other’s opinions that can easily effect your decision making process. This must be eliminated, as psychics need a focused and clear space to receive information.

As we all have the power and gift of becoming psychic and fine tuning our psychic ability, some helpful tips to heighten our awareness, improve our receptiveness and outlined here. Use excellent judgment, be cautious before acting on any decision or feeling and always trust in yourself more than the outside world’s judgment of you. Soon, you will begin to have images, feelings or words come into your mind and find them to prove true moments or days later. For example, have you ever thought about distant relative just seconds before the phone rings, and it’s that very person? Your psychic ability can be quickly heightened when you acknowledge the ability itself. So, when the phone rings and you know who it is right before you answer the phone, acknowledge that. Consider creating a mantra for yourself and repeat it throughout the day reminding yourself of your psychic abilities and how beneficial they are working in your life.

It’s important to constantly practice the gift you have been given. Don’t just repeat your mantra every once in a while or believe in your ability to “sometimes” tell the future. Your psychic ability needs to be strengthened in the same way your muscles need to be strengthened by lifting weights. If you want to have bigger biceps, more toned legs or improve your endurance, are you going to sit on the couch eating potato chips or go the gym? No one in their right mind will believe you can improve your endurance by sitting and watching TV all day. Your psychic muscle requires constant strengthening in the same way those biceps of yours too. Practice, practice, practice and you will be able to create the type of clairvoyant life you dream of. Don’t be discouraged if you can’t quite “measure” your progress. Improving your psychic powers can’t be determined in the same way other things can, like making your first cherry pie from scratch or acing that math test. This is when it’s most useful to practice trust and self-confidence. Only you know where you started, what you’ve accomplished and how far you need to go to make your dreams come true, right? Stay focused on that and allow yourself the time to improve.

A strong psychic ability requires the opportunity to strengthen your focus, determination and concentration. This can easily be done by some exercises to aid you in your psychic powers. After practicing these exercises on a weekly basis, you should have no trouble seeing and feeling the difference in your life to be clairvoyant! This first exercise involves using your “inner eye” and requires a partner to help you. Stand face to face with someone else and close your eyes. Use your inner eye to scan them up and down. Taking your time, realize what you feel about them. What do their clothes look like? What kind of images, words or numbers come up as you look them up and down and where? Afterwards, open your eyes and describe what you felt. Have the other person describe your accuracy.
You can also practice predictions and improve your ability to foretell the future. Stand or sit comfortably, with your feet firmly planted on the ground and write down three predictions for the next few days. As you go through those days, notice what you have perceived to be right and wrong. You will notice that over time, your predictions to become truer and more relevant.

Silva method subconscious mind control techniques are the best around. The purpose is to give us the power to increase our mental abilities, learn faster, retain more information, and even become better human beings. The mind is like a circuit, and thoughts are energy. When we capture this amazing truth and make it work for us, there is no limit to how high we can climb, or who we can become.

There are four recognized mental stages. The one most of us spend our lives in isthe beta state. This is our state of basic, waking awareness. The other three levels occur at different times while we are sleeping, but can also be achieved when we are awake and aware, giving us incredible powers of perception, and pushing the limits or our experience. These last three levels are called alpha, theta and delta.

Alpha is a state of relaxed awareness, associated with heightened awareness, concentration and perception. In the alpha state, the person is fully conscious and awake, but also hyper-focused and sensitive. This is an excellent state for learning and memorization, as well as excelling at just about anything.  In this state, some have also reported the ability to read others' thoughts and emotions accurately, or share their thoughts and emotions with others telepathically.

The theta state is ideal for healing and renewal. This stage closely resembles deep meditation, dreaming, and contemplative prayer. At this level, we are conscious and aware, but our minds are extremely powerful, giving us the ability to heal and uncover wounds, injuries, and even illnesses. Some have claimed they were able to heal a number of chronic or deadly illnesses in this mind-state.

The delta level is incredibly rare and reached only by the most disciplined meditators, using the deepest mind-control techniques. This state represents the mind at the deepest level of sleep, even though it is achieved while we are fully awake!. It is associated with transcendence, bliss, and deep, inner knowing. It is also the mind state for mental projection and lucid dreaming. It is commonly associated with enlightenment.

Those who use the silva method employ a number of techniques for achieving the different mental levels. The two most prominent include meditation and hypnosis. There is also the possibility of using music or binaural beats to achieve any of the three levels. Everyone should use whatever techniques is the most effective for them, as individuals.

Meditation is an ancient discipline, practiced by many cultures, over many generations. It is a mind-control technique, sometimes called the ultimate mind-control technique, since its ultimate goal is to bring the states of mind under control. With it, it is possible to still and focus our minds, entering several levels of trance-states, closes associated with those recognized in the silva method. Guided meditations exist specifically for this purpose.

Hypnosis is very much like meditation, except its main focus is on reaching an altered state of consciousness. Hypnosis is a relaxed, aware state, which makes us highly open to suggestion and ideas. This is not unlike the alpha stage, which is perfect for learning and heightened perception. Like meditation, there are guided sessions to help with self-hypnosis, and there are professional hypnotists who may be willing to help us enter a trance-like state.

Music can be used to reach any mental state. It is often a perfect supplement to meditation or hypnosis, as music can enchant the mind and draw us deeper into trance and concentration. The best music for this will be different for just about everyone. The key is to something our own minds respond well too, and which can occupy our attention and still our thoughts for long periods of time.

Binaural beats are audial beats created to match certain frequencies reached by the mind in one of the three higher levels. When we hear them, the sympathetic response of our brains is to match their frequency. High-quality examples can instantly propel us into alpha, theta or delta mental levels. They don't work for everyone, but, when they do, they can produce a very immediate and profound experience.

We all want to be the best people we possibly can be and achieve the highest potential of our powerful human minds. The Silva Method give us a path to this development, supplying us with great tools for cultivating our mental powers and improving our lives. Using meditation, music, binaural beats, or hypnosis, we can achieve greater concentration, healing, and bliss to achieve all that we are meant to as awakened, living beings.

Many people have heard of lucid dreaming and out of body experiences, but may not know what exactly they are and if they go hand in hand or are separate experiences. Lucid dreaming is the ability of a person dreaming to realize they are dreaming. As a person learns how to do this, they are able to control their dreams as well. An out of body experience is one in which a person has the sensation that their spiritual body has left their physical body. This is a common occurrence with people who have experienced great trauma or a life threatening event. They are rushed to a hospital and taken to surgery. While in surgery they begin to see their own body lying on the operating table, can see the lights shining down on them, are able to see the doctors and nurses moving and can hear them talking to one another. They are in essence floating above their physical body and watching the events as they take place. This is not the same as a near death experience in which a person becomes aware of a white light or walking down a tunnel, like many who have had near death experiences have related.

While both of these activities are independent of one another, the ability to join them is one that is easily learned. When a person first learns to lucid dream, they are able to enjoy their dreams while knowing they are dreaming. As they become more adept at lucid dreaming, they are able to begin to change the dream into anything they see fit. This is called dream control and is very easy to do once a person is lucid dreaming. For a person who would like to experience flight or any other form of an out of body experience, all they need to do is begin with lucid dreaming and dream control.be

There is another form of out of body experience that is called astral projection. Astral projection is the ability of a person to leave his or her physical body and travel near or far with their spiritual body. Many people who have done this have had different experiences, but most seem to be the same. They enjoy the feeling of flying apart from their physical body, but are vaguely aware of a thin, faint, silver cord connecting them to their physical body. This type of out of body experience can occur either during lucid dreaming or after having practiced doing it alone.

Many who have perfected their ability to astral travel find they are able to travel far distances, even without the memory of getting there. They desire to travel some place, say the Eiffel Tower, and as soon as they decide to go there that is where they are. This isn’t the same for everyone though. Many people have to work up to it. Most start by floating above their own physical body, and then gradually go a little farther away – maybe down the street. Eventually they are able to go wherever they want almost instantaneously.

Astral travel has been around for many years and shows up when studying different cultures from the American Indian medicine men, to Shamanism, and even to the Aborigines of Australia. It wasn’t common knowledge because it was considered a spiritual journey that only the spiritual intermediaries were able to perform. Now, it is becoming common knowledge that anyone who is willing to take the time to learn can astral travel.

If you want to experience all the benefits of lucid dream or have an out of body experience, know that it only takes several months for most people. Begin by practicing daily. Don’t get frustrated if you don’t see results and be patient with yourself. The ability to explore our world and universe in a very different way is available to anyone who has the patience and willingness to learn. It does come easier for some, but if you are open to new adventures of this sort it will happen for you too.

Learn Astral Projection and Lucid Dreaming with Steve G Jones, clinical hypnotherapist